Coaching
Outgrow the problem.
Most coaching tries to hand you a better strategy for the situation you're in. Mine tries to help you grow in the specific ways that make the situation gradually dissolve. The shift in you is the work. The challenge you're facing is the curriculum.
Who I work with
If any of this sounds like you …
- You reached the thing you were working toward, and the satisfaction faded faster than you expected. Now what?
- You're between chapters (leaving a job, considering leaving, a founder between things), and you want to choose the next move well.
- You're facing a decision that's really about who you are, not just what to do. Do I take this role? Start this company? Stay? Leave?
- You've noticed a pattern in how you work or relate that keeps repeating, and you can't quite shift it.
- You've gotten far on being capable and self-reliant, and lately that very strength feels like part of what's keeping you stuck.
If a couple of these land, this is probably for you.
What we'll actually do
Coaching as developmental growth.
We meet on video, weekly or biweekly, usually over a few months.
My method is grounded in the developmental approach I trained in through Integral Coaching Canada. It's more structured than it looks from the inside: each engagement is built around the specific ways you're trying to grow, and the work is designed around that, not improvised week to week. What you'll feel is that we're always working on what's most alive for you, and that it's connected to something larger about who you're becoming.
The premise is straightforward. The challenges in front of you are usually a good map of where you have the most room to grow. As you develop in those areas, the things that brought you in tend to loosen their grip on their own.
Between sessions there's usually something to try, notice, or practice. Sometimes it's a question to sit with. Sometimes it's a physical practice, because some changes can't be reasoned into. They have to be felt before they're understood.
Everything stays private.
My approach
Four principles I keep coming back to.
The questioning mind.
A good question, asked at the right moment, can do more than any amount of advice. Often what shifts things isn't new information but a new way of seeing the situation, usually by noticing the story you've been telling yourself about it and asking whether it's actually true. Helping you find those questions is a lot of what I do.
Integral Associate Coach — Integral Coaching Canada Integral coaching.
I'm a certified Integral Associate Coach with Integral Coaching Canada, which grounds my work in Integral Theory, a framework that maps human experience across four dimensions: mindset, behavior, culture, and systems. Most coaching addresses one dimension. Integral coaching addresses all four, because lasting change requires alignment across the whole person and their environment.
Embodied philosophy.
I hold a teacher rank (Lao Shr) in the Wudang Longmen (Dragon Gate) tradition of Tai Chi as a 20th-generation disciple, with more than a decade of practice. Training the body turns out to train everything else. Qualities like staying grounded under pressure, yielding instead of forcing, and sensing what's actually happening before reacting are learned physically first, and then they show up in how you handle a hard conversation or a hard decision. I bring that into the work.
The infinite game.
Finite games are played to win. Infinite games are played to keep playing. Most people are stuck in finite games they don't realize they're playing: "winning" the date, the promotion, the argument. The winning itself is the problem, because it ends the game. I help people see which game they're in, and choose one worth staying in.
A bit about me
I'm a certified Integral Coach (Integral Coaching Canada) and a Tai Chi teacher in the Wudang Dragon Gate lineage, a 20th-generation disciple with more than a decade of practice. I also have an MBA from Yale and years of consulting with small businesses on strategy, technology, and systems. I tend to move between a strategy conversation, a philosophical one, and a personal-growth one without really changing gears, because to me they're all the same conversation.
Next step
Free intro call.
Thirty minutes, no agenda, no preparation. You tell me what's going on. I'll tell you whether I think I can help. If yes, we talk about what working together looks like. If no, I'll tell you that too, and probably point you somewhere better.